Power of Words

By Dominica Dineo Dhlamini  

Each time you say something, how often have you thought about it. Without even realising it, what we say can either build or destroy a relationship.
It is amazing the power that words have in our day to day lives. So before you think of belittling anyone think of what you are doing to them.
Are you being helpful in anyway? Do the words that you are gong to say, lift someone up or bring them down?
Would you want to spend the rest of your life living in misery because of a label that someone cast on you? If not then why are you the very person saying nasty things about anyone?
Why are you wasting so much time being negative in your life? Of all the weapons on earth, the mouth has to be the deadliest. So guard what you say. You cannot take back what you blindly utter to hurt someone. It haunts them for the rest of their life.
So choose your words wisely and begin to use some of these magic words that are in bold.
I am sorry........is all it takes to make things right. Three words spoken sincerely from the heart.
Three words showing exactly how much you value your relationship. Three words that ascertain that you acknowledge that things are not right and that you are sad things turned out the way they did.
I love you.......when spoken from the heart these words can transform a person's life. All shade of dark is removed by these amazing words. Different race, different religion, different cultures, but all brought together by this amazing feeling that is difficult to explain. We all speak the same language when it comes to love. What do you desire most in the world? You might say a better life,wealth, but after all that, if you do not have anyone to share it with, you are just one
empty soul.
I will make it up to you..............a promise to right all the things that you have made wrong.
Trust me.......Are you really worthy of that trust, or will I regret putting that trust in you.
What I have realised is that never say things you do not mean.
Always live up to your end of the bargain.
If you cannot say anything nice about anyone just keep quiet.
It takes a lifetime to build relationships, but all it takes is one single lie(word) to destroy it all.
Never pretend to be something you are not, but at the same time be kind to people.
Be careful what you wish upon your life cause it normally does come true.
In short, mean what you say and say what you mean.

Relationship Advice for Women in Their 20s

By Bellaisa Filippis  

Relationship advice for women in their 20s is definitely different than relationship advice for older woman or younger girls. We are not in the same frame of mind during these times.
Our 20s is when we are just starting to figure out who we really are and where we are really going in life. While some women have already figured out their lives direction, most have not.

This uncertainty is why relationships can be so hard during this time. How can we expect our partners to know who we are, how to treat us, and what we really want in life if we don't know ourselves?
Here is some relationship advice to help you have an easier time during your 20s in relationships.

Don't Count on Anyone Else To Make You Happy
You may think that finding a boyfriend will give you the happiness you've been looking for. You might dream about meeting prince charming and living happily ever after, and put all your future happiness into that basket. But the truth is that you will not be happy once you find prince charming if you are not happy now!
If we were all suddenly happy when we got into a relationship then there would be no divorce or fights in a relationship, right? Bottom line: You can't depend on a relationship to make you happy.

YOU are the only one who can make yourself happy. If you do not understand the things that make you happy when you are single then you will not understand them when you are in a relationship. In fact, the relationship might just cause more confusion than anything.

And if you depend on a guy to make you happy during this period of discovering who you really are then you will probably cause the relationship to have many arguments and sad times, and you can even cause a breakup. Nobody should have, or wants, the weight of trying to make you happy all the time on their shoulders.

Remember That You Have Lots of Time
Somewhere in the worlds history it became custom to get married and have kids in your early twenties. And because there are still a lot of people (mothers and grandmothers) who feel that it is supposed to be that way, women in the 20s can feel a lot of pressure to live up to that expectation!

But nowadays 20 is very young and the expectation to be completely settled in a relationship with kids in your early twenties is pretty much ridiculous. Our life spans are increasing and women are busier in their goals and dreams then they were 50 years ago when being a housewife was standard for women.
Now, we have more freedom to focus on ourselves and our wants and needs, and not rush into settling down. And the good news is guys are doing the same thing, so when women are ready to settle down they should have no problem finding a guy their age who wants the same thing.

Don't Try To Change Your Partner
If you do end up in a long-term relationship in your 20s then remember that you can't change your partner to fit your desires. They are also growing and learning what they want in life, and they are on their own specific path. You can't force them to become someone they don't want to be - and if you try to do that then you will find that you will end up with a resentful and bitter partner.

The best thing you can do for your relationship is to allow it to grow as the both of you grow. This means that you do have to put work into the relationship and keep the bond between the two of you strong while you each figure out where you are going in life.

You can do this by understanding your partners needs and desires and validating them as important and valuable. He will love that you are so understanding of his uniqueness, and that understanding will only bring the two of you closer!

Remember these 3 bits of relationship advice and you will find that your 20s will go much smoother when it comes to having happy relationships.

How to Tell If a Guy is No Longer Interested in You? Know His Intentions Before He Dumps You

By Krista Hiles

Don't make a fool of yourself hanging on to a guy who is no longer interested in you. It will save you a lot of heartbreak and restore your pride if you break away in time and don't let him take advantage of you. Take note of these tips that will help you find out if the guy has lost interest in you.

He is not with you even when he is with you!
When you find that you can't hold his attention and he seems to be "floating away" into another world without taking you along, it simply means that his interest in you is waning. His mind is somewhere else and even though he is with you physically, he is not with you in spirit!

He starts to make excuses as to why he can't see you
When you notice that all of a sudden he begins to make stupid excuses as to why he can't see you or keep a date, it could be that he is losing interest in you or that he is already seeing someone else.

He starts criticizing you and finding faults with you
Have you noticed that lately you can't do anything right when you are with him? When he begins to pick on you mercilessly, and criticizes your hair, your clothes and your behavior it proves that he is irritated with you and does not care for you anymore. It would do wise to drop him quick!

He starts to withdraw and become cold
The moment he starts to lose interest in you he will begin to withdraw from the relationship and become cold and uncaring. Nothing you seem to say or do will move him and he will stop communicating with you. He will show you in a hundred little ways that he is no longer interested in you.

When he starts flirting with other women
If he has started losing interest in you he will automatically check out other women, flirt with them and even try to pick them up without giving you a thought! Check his behavior and body language. You will be able to pick up the signs easily. The moment you see him making eyes at another woman you should know that he does not care any more!

When he stops calling you
Has he stopped calling you and messaging you? If the calls have been few and far between and you are finding yourself sitting by the telephone praying that he gets in touch with you, then wake up! Don't call him and look at the clues - realize that he has lost interest in you.

When he starts ignoring you
Have you noticed how he has deliberately started ignoring you and paying more interest in your best friend? This could mean that he is trying to get the message across that he has lost interest in you and is now interested in someone else. Test him further and see if he refuses to talk to you and insists on talking to her! This will prove his disinterest in you.