People in Successful Relationships Exhibit These Truths

When you find yourself in a relationship with another person be yourself-the real, true you. In fact, always be the real true you to live a healthy and happy life.

What about the other person? Hopefully they are being who they really are when they are around you. Do you give them the freedom to be who they really are? Do you accept them no matter how they are and how they are not, what they say or don't say, no matter what they do or don't do-do you love them?

Do you notice I don't talk about unconditional love? There is no such thing as unconditional love. You either love or you don't love. When you bring in a condition and say something like, "I love you when you bring me flowers." But at other times, if they do something you don't see as good, do you turn off your love? Can you turn love on and off? Would you withdraw it and then give it back? Love is unconditional. Anything else is not love.

If you want to feel love from someone else then you need to give love. Whatever you want to bring into your life, whatever you want to have or to feel from others-give that thing or feeling away to others. You don't have to tell them. Just send it to them. Be happy for them. Wish them well. In addition to (unconditional) love, you need to honor and respect yourself first so you are then able to offer both to other people.

It doesn't really matter if the other person is your spouse, your partner, your child, your family, your friend or a stranger. People are people. And all people crave love, understanding, appreciation, honoring and respect. All people deserve to feel all those feelings-just because they exist.

If you do not love, understand, appreciate, honor and respect yourself-why not? How do you treat yourself? How are you training others to treat you? Do you accept anything less from others in their treatment of you? Whatever you accept is what you will get.

If there is something you don't like in a behavior from another person, number one, let them know that is not acceptable behavior to you at the moment they do it. That feeling is not something you hold inside, and stew over and think to yourself, "Well, if he loves me then he'll change."

Life does not happen that way. You accept the behaviors that are okay with you. Anything else, if the person won't stop them when you express the fact that those behaviors bother you, then it is time for that person to leave your world.

You don't need to allow every person into your world. You get to choose who comes into your world. And you get to choose who stays in your world. And you know what? As you grow and change, the people you attract and the people who leave your world-you will see a constant flow of people coming into your life and people leaving your life. And some people will hang around for always. Those people know the real you. And they know you accept them as they really are.

Real people experience real and successful relationships.

By Ali Bierman

Delay Sex in Order to Make Your Relationship Last

If you want a long term relationship with someone, did you know that one of the best ways to ensure that it happens is to delay sex? Are you thinking of having sex with your current partner for the first time but are having trouble deciding if it's the right thing to do? How long should you make him wait? Many women are confused as to when they should sleep with their new guy and how soon is too soon when it comes to sex. It you are seeking something serious and permanent, it can actually be a good idea to delay sex, at least for a little while. The following article will tell you why.

The moral debate has been taken out of a lot of sexual questions these days because more and more people are having casual relationships and flings. However, if you are seeking something more serious and long term then you might to delay sex, at least for a little while. Why? Because sex can cloud the issue at hand.

If you sleep with a guy right away, he might become confused about your intentions. He might start thinking that you are only after a casual fling, when in fact you want something more serious. He might even want something more serious but be afraid to tell you because he doesn't want you to reject him.

In addition, by making him wait you will be able to tell what his true intentions are. If he pushes you for sex right up front then that might be all that he wants. If he is willing to wait a little while, however, until you have formed a closer bond then it can let you know that he wants something more serious as well.

These are just a couple of things that you might want to think about when you enter into a new relationship. In order to attain longevity within a relationship, you have to have a good solid foundation. Sex is generally pretty weak. If you delay sex and forge a friendship first, however, you relationship has a better chance of lasting.

By Tina L. Jones