Where do you begin if you want to make a guy fall in love? It is possible to make him yearn for your love as completely as he yearns for your body? Do you want to know what it takes to bring a man from mild attraction into flaming passion for you? If you want answers to these questions then you'd better keep reading. Pay attention because you are about to learn how to make a guy fall in love...
Lust is a lot less complicated than love is, which may be why men seem to favor it. Men aren't taught to believe that they should go all out and express their emotions. They can have feelings of lust for a woman, but those belong to the physical realm. Men are at home in the physical realm, the same is not true for their comfort level with the emotional realm.
You see, emotional bonding takes work, sex really does not. In other words, men do not have to leave their comfort zone in order to have sex with a woman. However, in order to be vulnerable enough to actually care for someone else and to take the chance of getting hurt if that person does not feel the same, men have to step outside of their comfort zones.
Well, most guys are going to put up some resistance to allowing themselves to be open to getting hurt. It doesn't make them jerks; it just means that they may have some defenses against becoming open and needy. It's because they are raised NOT to be that way and society constantly bombards them with messages telling them not to be weak or emotional.
The best thing that you can do to make a guy feel safe and fall in love with you is to take it slow. Men like to feel that they are in control of their lives, so let him set the pace that the relationship moves at. That said, you will want to hold off on having sex with him in the beginning. Once he is in the comfort zone of physical intimacy, you are going to have a significantly harder time of trying to inspire him back out and into a place where he has to feel and work more.
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